Midlife Mastery Journal

‘Getting stuck’ at midlife means only that you’ve stopped believing in yourself, and have started down the road that’s been paved for you by those who have given up on themselves. Hope is a very fragile thing, and can be damaged or destroyed by trusting those who have already lost faith rather than paying attention to your own God-given destiny, purpose and value. Who you are and who you shall become can never depend on what others think of you.

Men facing the midlife transition are standing at the very edge of this abyss. Far too many go over the edge, losing their relationships, their families, their careers, their very identities. No wonder men in this situation want to start all over again, create a new persona, and reinvent themselves.

At some point during a successful midlife transition, your guides and directors (your superego, the voice of your parents, teachers, mentors and friends) your superiors and law-enforcers all have to fall silent.

When you look in the mirror, who is it that you see? One thing’s for certain: you’re not seeing yourself as you are; you’re seeing yourself as you were, through the lens of all those emotion-laden memories. Some are invigorating: providing emotional energy to get you up and going. Others (the painful ones) are energy sinks, draining you of satisfaction and vitality.