Midlife Mastery Journal

Certainly, illicit relationships (going out on your partner) can happen at any time of life. When they do, I believe that they’re always narcotic relationships.

Whether you’re 15 or 50, you’ve got some growing to do. Yet most people who are reading these words are unaware that there exists a huge obstacle to your growth that you’re just taking for granted. In fact, if you’re like most people, you probably think that this major obstacle to growth belongs there: it seems like that’s the way things are supposed to be.

When communication breaks down, then relationships break down, and then both party’s sense of personal well-being becomes compromised. I truly believe that many work and personal relationships (and egos) could be salvaged, if people only worked at perfecting the skills involved in resolving conflict and coming to consensus (meaning, “I can live with that decision”).

Yes, there are strategies that you can adopt to manage life’s frequent unpleasant surprises. Like most life strategies that empower you to handle the issues that midlife throws at you, almost all of these strategies involve simply changing your mind to see the reality that life presents you in a different light.

Nobody can make proactive investments in your life for you: it’s entirely up to you. As I’ve mentioned often before: at midlife, the training wheels come off. The expectations and constraints that ushered you through childhood, adolescence and adulthood have served (or outlasted) their usefulness.